Sabtu, 20 September 2014

30 Day Challenge (that has now lasted like a year)- Where Are We At




Day 1- Someone who you think underestimates their own beauty. –J Cro
Day 2- Something that you genuinely think is beautiful that isn't always treated that way.- Pear Shapes
Day 3- Someone whose courage makes them beautiful.- Mindy 

Day 4- Someone who is beautiful because they are always experimenting with their look.- Paige 


Day 5- Someone who is beautiful because of their confidence. – Amanda 

Day 6- Something that you think is beautiful about women who are Moms (or Grandmas).


Day 7- Someone who always expresses themselves in a beautiful way. Aunt Tunde


Day 8- Someone who you think lights up the rooms they are in. Melissa

Day 9- Someone who you think is beautifully unique. Grammy

Day 10-Someone with great hands. Nana

 Day 11- Someone who you think is beautiful because they know what they want from life. Jenny


Day 12- Someone you think is bold and courageous.- Amanda

Day 13- Someone with great skin.- Elizabeth 
 
Day 14- Someone whose smile makes you smile. Aubrey
Day 15- Something that you think is beautiful about yourself. Feet and Smile
Day 16- Someone who you think has beautiful strength- AuntAnn

Day 17- Someone who sticks it to gender norms.- Pam
Day 18-  A way you think a person's personality makes them beautiful. A Sense of Humor
Day 19- Someone whose intelligence makes them beautiful. Kate and Courtney 

Day 20- Someone who only gets more beautiful with time. AuntJoanna


Day 21- Someone you think has great style. Dorian 

Day 22- Something you don't have that you find beautiful in other women.- Julia


Day 23- Someone whose positive thoughts shine out of their face.- Rochelle

Day 24- Someone who is beautiful because of what they love.Mrs Alfeo

Day 25- Someone who radiates warmth and love.Bryana


Day 26- Someone with great hair.-Ellen, Corinne, Angela, and Concetta

Day 27- Someone who is beautiful because of how they see, not only how they look- Natalie
Day 28- Someone who is hilarious and that makes them beautiful.
Day 29- Someone with beautiful eyes.
Day 30- Something that you didn't notice before as beautiful, but you do now.
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30 Day Lady Positivity Challenge- Day 27





Day 27- Someone who is beautiful because of how they see, not only how they look.- Natalie


We are getting to the end! I think this is a really great topic- when a baby is born, part of the pleasure of being present for the start of their of their life is seeing the world through their super fresh eyes. We are quick to notice how a person situates themselves around what they see, but if you reflect on how they actually see the world differently, you might discover a whole new wonderful side of them (not to mention something new to love in the world around you). So if you aren’t going to do this challenge (and it does take forever), I think this might be a good mini-challenge, to empathize enough with the people we love to try to figure out why what they see is beautiful to them. 

My cousin Natalie is another one of those people who just seems effortlessly cool and creative with everything she does, and I think a huge part of it comes from how she sees the world. She is also an amazing artist, but we can talk more about that later. Natalie grew up in Kenya in a community of missionaries, so right from the start, she has an incredibly unique perspective. After visiting Nairobi myself last year, I can see that her family occupies this kind of strange middle space in both Kenya and in the States where they would spend their furloughs. They belong to unique communities in both, but they also exist a little bit as outsiders wherever they go. They never completely blend in, and I bet they feel pretty self-aware in most situations (at least in their transitions).



Perhaps because of this position, Natalie especially has struck me as a sensitive observer. She is super fun and silly, but I think she plays things close to the chest, is endlessly graceful and quiet when dealing with strangers, and a keen responder to others. She comes off as shy (though as a toddler she was super outgoing and really good at jumping on the bed). Being a missionary kid means you are meeting new people all the time, and I am consistently impressed with how she handles that discomfort in a way where she both connects with people and seems to accept the disconnect.  Plus, she has let it propel her into a life brimming with courage, and I feel like for the rest of my life I will be jealous of her adventures!

When Natalie moved (semi-permanently) to the States for college, she went to a school driving distance from our grandparents (both of her sisters landed closer to their other set) so we were lucky to get o spend a lot of time with her. I know my grandparents loved having her at the house as well. I have loved having Natalie around, because she has a great sense of humor and fun. The key to success at family events (and life really) is having someone else in the room who says YES, let's do it. Natalie is always that person. She never needs to be the center of attention, but she is a good leader and friend to many of our cousins who live nearby. She recently moved to Texas, and I really missed her when trying to pull together s'mores and togetherness. We got spoiled to have her around.


I also have the sense that Natalie is a real girl's girl. She has a big, very loyal group of girlfriends, an she is the favorite of many of my girl cousins (my cousin Shawnie is currently plotting Natalie's marriage to a pro athlete). My theory is that being a girl's girl or not primarily depends on one's ability to listen and care, both of which seem to be strengths of hers.

Natalie also loves to shop and to play with fashion, and who can blame her when she looks like a model? Natalie is a tall drink of blonde water, and she dresses like these girls on Top Model after Tyra makes them give up their accessories and put their hair back. I have heard from many people that Natalie looks just like her mom did (but Moffitt blond), but she actually reminds me of Shelly (none of us look all that much alike, to be honest). I feel like her seeming effortlessness comes from a deep knowledge of what works on her, what she likes, and a quiet confidence that shows she knows what she is doing.


This same beautiful vision of the world, aesthetic sensibility, and confidence in her own choices has led Natalie to the fine arts. The art world systems are built to kick your butt in the beginning, but I hope she sticks with it, because she is really talented. For her senior project, Natalie painted these gorgeous small-scale abstract landscapes, and now that I am genoming, these small geographies resonate with a lot of what other artists are thinking about. If she had a website, I would send you to it, but she is only 6 months out of undergrad and hasn't gotten there yet, She also spent a summer interning at Kitengala Glass, a giant, bizarre, and totally amazing workshop outside of Nairobi, where she learned to blow glass and make mosaics and be cooler than all the rest of us put together. 

Of all of my Mom's siblings, her brother Steve has always been the quietest but one of the most adventurous, especially when it comes to trekking up mountains and climbing rocks (also in life choices, you don't move your whole family to Africa if you let your fear of the unknown control you). He reminds me of my Poppop in that they seem perfectly comfortable with silence, just looking around, especially when they move through natural settings. I see this quality in Natalie as well, a comfort with the quiet, a connection with the natural world (she slept in a tent by herself for a week on her school campus once- how cool is that?), and a  lot of subtle tools to communicate what is most important to her.

To be a successful artist, we all know you have to be a skilled maker, being able to effectively manipulate whichever materials you choose. To be really great (or anything worth paying prolonged attention to), you have to be a great observer and thinker. In one of her senior critiques, Natalie was kind of backed into a corner to talk about a very personal experience in a way that made her uncomfortable, but I think there is some power in her doing that. She is already a great observer with a very unique perspective, so the more she shares what she sees, the greater she will be as an artist. This powerful combination is what gives me faith that she can be really successful as an artist if she chooses. 



I think Natalie's (and her sisters') view of the world is so much more transitive than those of us who had the privilege of an easy and mostly unchanging environment. I love when she opens up more about what she is seeing, thinking, and feeling, and I have learned a lot from watching her behavior and kindness the past few years. I just think she is fearless, awesome, and able to see the world in all sorts of beautiful color. In my opinion, she is an extraordinary person, and so much of that comes from how she carries her history and wonderfulness right with her. She looks at the world with both freedom and caring, and this lens creates a view new to me and many around her.



So here's to you, Natalie, for rocking big earrings like every day is your birthday, for having an endless supply of fun ideas, for making really beautiful abstract paintings, for being yet another tall person when I am doomed to only the slightest verticality, for building an amazing console, for turning one room in Nana's house into a colorful art gallery, for using your talents when people ask, for having the courage to put yourself out there over and over again, for your optimism and faith which I hope you never lose, for knowing this is what you should be doing (and for being right), for weathering the horribleness which is being 22 and starting adulthood, for giving our grandparents so much love and confidence in the time you lived with them, for letting the rest of us know little by little the beautiful way you see the world. You are beautiful and I am so grateful for the past few years and chances to know you better!

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Jumat, 19 September 2014

3 Things for Yesterday- Walking, Wayne White, and Just Going to Bed

Yesterday, in all honesty, turned out to be a big old bummer. Things weren't working for my job and it was a straight up bad day at the Boy's job, so this week has really continued this year's stretch of building character whenever we think we have finally got things under control. It has been a character-builder for sure, but there is always something to be grateful for, so let's focus on the positive, shall we?

1. Walking laps in the house- It has been rainy here, and the last few days I have just been working from home, but between every 50 or so genomes, I walk a mile just doing laps in our house. I feel like my fitness has basically plummeted, and this week hasn't helped, but I am determined to get moving again, because I feel better when I do.


2. Wayne White- I know I talked about him already, but I love this artist. New favorite person. If I was only going to get to genome one thing yesterday before the system broke down (apparently still broken, so I am going to get all kinds of other work done today), it should be something as wonderful as him.  He directed the Tonight, Tonight music video for Smashing Pumpkins. New obsession. There is apparently a documentary about him, so I will be investigating that next (maybe today).

3. Just going to Bed- Sometimes, you have to accept the day has nothing left in it and just go to bed early. That's what we did last night, and it was pretty nice. Hopefully, today will be better!

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Vintage Bride of the Week: Stephanie in 1960s lace and chiffon wedding dress.

Dear Reader,
There's an Autumn nip in the air today. So I'm going to share these gorgeous pics from real vintage bride Stephanie...
Stephanie married last Winter in the idyllic setting of Bloomington, Indiana. 
Stephanie is such a delightful girl and I was really pleased to meet her charming parents, Steve and Jane, who flew over from Canada to help choose the dress.
With their help, Stephanie chose this stunning original early 1960s wedding dress in lace and chiffon - so glamorous! And I love her swishy 1960s hairstyle that works so well with it. (For more great 1960s hair ideas, click here.)

Stephanie certainly made the right choice...
"The dress was amazing, absolutely beautiful and all I could have hoped for! I received so many compliments, and people said it was one of the most stunning gowns they'd ever seen. Thank you for all of your hard work, and for helping to make my big day so special.
Marriage has been a treat, and we think fondly back to December 14th often. It went by so fast, but it was such a memorable day nonetheless. Thank you again, Helena!"
 
Thanks so much for sharing the pics, Stephanie and Brian. We love your snow-kissed 1960s style!

And thanks to USA photographer Eric Rudd for the pictures - you can see lots more of this gorgeous wedding on his blog here.

Love
Helena
Heavenly Vintage Brides

If you like this post, please take a look at...
Long-sleeved, lace vintage-style 'Dorothy' dress

Hairstyles for 1960s wedding dresses
 
More Real Vintage Brides




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Kamis, 18 September 2014

3 Things for Yesterday- The Bechdel Grant, Sol Studio, and Finishing Mario

1.Alison Bechdel won a MacArthur genius grant- Also, that they covered this news freaking everywhere. It was one of the first things I read in the morning when I woke up. I feel like I spent years telling people about the Bechdel test (are there 2 female characters? do they have names? do they talk about something other than a man?), but she and her comic Dykes to Watch Out For must be increasingly ubiquitous if super sexist EW had an article about it. The award is well-deserved and I can't wait to see what she does with that money and time.

from http://thesolstudio.com/exhibits/
2.The Sol Studio in Harlem- Genoming for them was the first time I could just appreciate the brilliance of their curation for "I Found God in Myself" while learning about the many great artists- Jas Knight, Deborah McDuff, Heather L Johnson, Lehna Huie, Wura Natasha Ogunji, and Alejandra Regalado- who are exhibiting there. It made me wish I lived in New York so I could walk down and see this work in the flesh!
3. Finishing Mario (sort of)! We have been playing through again since we moved in as a way to take a break from house and life stress, and we finally beat the big castle. But of course we have level 9. And we missed 2 secret levels, so the Boy is on a mission about them. It feels good to be so totally immature from time to time, and I am almost getting better, which is a bit of a miracle all on its own. Plus, when we won the castle, he went back so we could play all the memory games again, which is my favorite part. I want a video game where you can't die, you just give each other presents.

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What does it mean to be a Steward? Green Living, Christianity, and Taking Care of God's Creation

 
Marc Chagall, Adam and Eve, St Stephen Mainz Germany
from flickr.com

 "Owe no one anything, except to love each other, for the one who loves another has fulfilled the law. For the commandments, “You shall not commit adultery, You shall not murder, You shall not steal, You shall not covet,” and any other commandment, are summed up in this word: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” Love does no wrong to a neighbor; therefore love is the fulfilling of the law."-Romans 13: 8-10

"Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change" -James 1:17

I have been a Christian since I was a child, and my very basic understanding of Jesus Christ and Christianity is this (pardon the crass paraphrase here, I am no theologian). He showed up and told people,  "You are letting these accumulations of rules and religious baggage pull you away from God. The two greatest rules are to love God and love each other." Basically everything else in the red letters, to my mind, expands on this, and he tells story after story about these themes.

In the prodigal son, we see the unconditional love of the father at play, but we can also learn from the "good" son, who stays and works, then feels frustrated and jealous that his misbehaving sibling receives such love. We can learn that being close to God is a reward in itself, and just because you do everything "right" doesn't mean God loves you more. It's the other side of grace.

In the good Samaritan, we watch a bunch of people who are supposedly "right" with God turn their back on an undesirable person who needs their help. Like so many of the examples that Jesus sets in his actions, this story shows the value and love in helping someone who doesn't agree with you or who is even your enemy. Your taking care of others pleases God.

I think a lot about the seemingly simple charge to love others and to love God, and what this action entails. These two instructions dominate and organize my faith (and deeply inform my being a liberal and a feminist as well).  If you really accept God as creator of everything, then loving others, no matter what their religion or race or whatever becomes (in my one opinion) an absolute necessity, because they are just like that prodigal son- maybe not on the same track to Him as you are, but equally loved by Him (and it's not your business or your right to judge them beyond that). I know that loving someone means communicating (it's why we pray and meditate, right?), it means to care, it means to "protect, trust, hope, and persevere." We show these people love because God created them, and just like we wouldn't rip up a handmade gift (I mean, no one rips up a scarf from their grandma or a card from a child), we should treasure other humans as specially made by Him.

What could we as Christians do better to love God and show him we are grateful for his creation? One of the clearest (but most difficult) answers to this question is to be better stewards. When God first charged Adam and Eve to take care of the world he made them, the task was relatively straightforward- take care of the Earth and the animals on it. In Genesis, we read "“Then God said, Let us make man in our image, in our likeness, and let them rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air, over the livestock, over all the earth, and over all the creatures that move along the ground.” So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and over every living creature that moves on the ground.”

He gave us responsibility for everything on the Earth, to build up his creation and to take care of it. Everything was right in front of their eyes, so if there was a problem, they could see it. Thousands of years later, capitalism has pulled us far away from these things- we (mostly) don't grow or hunt our own food, we don't take care of our own waste,  and we don't make about 99% of what we use (is anyone reading this actually wearing something they made? I am wearing a sweater from The Gap and eating Goldfish, so I know I fail this test.

Green practices, tree-hugging, etc. has become another political issue where I believe in some cases, Chist-claiming politicians are actually fighting against our charge as Christians. The debate about global warming rages on, but no matter what your opinion, can you really say that you are honoring God's creation in how you are living your life? Why does it even matter when it is CLEAR we are not doing what we should as human beings and as a nation to take care of the world around us? Are you encouraging kind treatment of animals, of plants, of the Earth? I know I could do much better at this. If you aren't making it yourself, I believe STRONGLY it is your responsibility as a Christian to vote with your money, to show companies that your won't give them money for treating the earth badly. To me, this would include buying ethically treated animals, shopping at places that treat their workers right, and encouraging Earth-friendly modes of eliminating waste in your neighborhood.

The next response to this line of thinking is "Holy crap, do you know how hard it would be to do all of this?" I totally agree! This is a huge challenge, not to mention how expensive it is in some cases (buying ethical meat is so much more costly for example).

Tough noogies. I think stewardship should be hard. Much like taking care of your home, your body, or the things that are immediate to you, taking care of the world should be continuing labor and it should cost you something. It never becomes something you don't have to try at, but the longer you let it go, the harder it becomes to pull things back together. God made us this way for a reason. Capitalism likes to promise easy, speedy, and cheap, but this lie they sell us over and over again isn' doing any of us any good individually or on a larger scale (see- self-checkout. It's not that much faster, they are literally putting you to work, and you are costing someone their job). The sooner we give up this idea, the better we can serve God through the way we live our daily lives.

So I know we as a family are resolving to become better stewards for the Earth. Not to be perfect, but to try to shop ethically. We are lucky that Seattle has composting and recycling as part of their garbage service, and I have to say, I am blown away by how little actual garbage you have once you compost (it is smelly though, if we are keeping it honest- I don't remember reading about stinkiness in the Bible except for Ehud in Judges, and that is unrelated). The true owner of your home and Earth is God, you are just keeping it right now. He gave us his best, so I am striving to better give him my best at this as well. I think there are some simple steps you could take if you wanted to start small:

1. Canvas grocery bags! Not only are they way way better for the environment, they also hold more stuff. Sure, you get to have the moment where you realize you left your bag in the car at least once a month, but if you are a normal person, the routine eventually takes over (I still fail at this).
2. Walk places or carpool. I know the possibility to do this varies a lot depending where you live, but if you can (meaning to me, less than 2 miles of a safe walk), then why not? It's better for you too! Also, please don't ride your bike. I hate bike riders. They are my mortal enemies (but really, if you can trade a ride in the car for a quick bike ride, I support that).
3. Stop using straws! I think this may have set this whole thing off for me. Do you know how much waste the average American makes just from all those one time use plastic straws? Really people, if you aren't a toddler, you can probably stand to skip the plastic lid and straw at a restaurant. Keep ones in your car like you keep napkins, and when you go through fast food or starbucks, turn down the ones they offer.
4. Use more ethical eggs- Unless you are supergranola Mindy, you probably buy your eggs. Eggs and their farmers have gotten on board with cage-free or organic fed practices more quickly, and in most cases, it is one of the smaller/ more affordable changes you can make.
5. Meatless Mondays (and Tuesdays)- A good way to cut down on meat cost so you can buy whatever you will eat is to have a few more meals with eggs or nuts as the proteins. It can really help, and you can put that money into the better choices at your grocery store if your farmer's market meat is as crazy expensive as ours.
6. Plant things- On a daily basis, we take and take from the world around us. If you can grow things where you live, even on your patio, grow them! Creation is one of the most beautiful things we can do as human beings, so do it more. Not to mention, if you are taking care of even a small percentage of what farmer's are doing, you can better appreciate the labor being put in.
7. Reuse! We receive the message over and over as Americans that we should want the newest, biggest, or best thing. Sometimes, the best thing we can do is figure out how to make the best of what we have first. I know as we have been looking for furniture, there are so many places selling simple things like shelves and dressers used, and you can paint and fix them up for way less than new furniture. The more you can make the best of what you have, the less you are using resources.
8. Actually unplug things! I am the worst about this, but we could probably all use a lot less electric if we didn't have 1 electronics on at the same time. I also read that if you do a better job caulking holes and weatherproofing your house, you can consume a lot less energy heating and cooling it. My mother got solar panels, and she will get all that money back in electric bills she doesn't have to pay. That's a dramatic move, but I think it is food for thought for us.
9. Compost and Recycle- If your community doesn't support it, this may be a fight worth having. Organic waste in regular dumps are much less likely to break down over time, so it only adds to the giant pile of junk taking over- do we really want to live like they do in Wall-E?
10. Write when a company packages things badly- Amazon often asks for packaging feedback- If you are receiving things that use unrecyclable packing material, complain. I just wrote the company we bought our crib from, because it came in all sorts of styrofoam. You can also question a store or company when things are packaged way more than they need to be- why is that even there?
11. This is huge, YOU VOTE WITH YOUR MONEY- If you spend money on something unethical, you are telling that company that you are ok with it, they should put more money into that, etc. If you care about animals, why would you tell them it is ok to treat them badly? Do the research, and if it seems sketchy, it probably is.

Obviously, all of these might be tiny steps, but they add up. After 5 years of using canvas bags, I know we have changed how much plastic waste we make.

Even though you can find lots of ideas for concrete steps to take, I think being a Steward of the Earth is more of a mindset than a simple set of concrete steps, because the world we live in makes some good choices completely unavailable. It also is difficult because so often the Earth-friendly choice is not the cheapest or least time-consuming, but that doesn't keep it from being worthwhile. Here is another (much more comprehensive) list of things you can do for your house if you own one (but some of the things on the list are about shopping, so that might help.  This is another essay on Green Living and Christian stewardship that I thought was sweet and on point.

We are going to try to keep trying and stepping up our lifestyle to minimize impact. If you also try to practice good stewardship, how do you do it?
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Good Morning! Today's Inspiration

Since I was recused from jury duty, I have the opportunity to keep working on my genoming for Artsy. Right now, my goal is to work on my efficiency. At first, it took me all day to do like 30 artworks, and I would like to be able to do 200 in a day if I do absolutely nothing else, so I can blog, exercise, take care of our baby, and genome in the right amounts and still get everything done. Yesterday, I did 110, but I kept working at night until I fell asleep. This morning, the very first thing I am genoming is Wayne White paintings, and I am in love with him. It's like if Ed Ruscha became incredibly inappropriate (he also made the puppets for PeeWee's Playhouse, so really, my new favorite person). His book is called Maybe Now I'll Get the Respect I so Richly Deserve. Here are a few gems.

from waynewhiteart.com
from www.cocreativepdx.com
from artstormer.com
You are welcome, World, for starting your day off right. If you knew just how many boring things I spare you, you would thank me. This guy is freaking amazing.



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